tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4974128647569108285.post4703471086226815724..comments2023-04-12T05:18:28.846-07:00Comments on Living! with MS: 7 hours and countingDenver Refashionistahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17681030016057155728noreply@blogger.comBlogger7125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4974128647569108285.post-46822986682958258332009-01-02T16:14:00.000-08:002009-01-02T16:14:00.000-08:00Thanks to everyone who commented. I see a trend h...Thanks to everyone who commented. I see a trend here. It seems I need to adjust my expectations. I guess I don't have to work all this out or have the answers by tomorrow. This reminder is helpful right now.Denver Refashionistahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17681030016057155728noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4974128647569108285.post-71475410986567794332009-01-02T11:16:00.000-08:002009-01-02T11:16:00.000-08:00edit.. It was supposed to read "Life was never gua...edit.. It was supposed to read<BR/><BR/> "Life was never guaranteed or even meant for us to be continuously happy"<BR/><BR/>Kind of makes a difference in what I was trying to say.. lol.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4974128647569108285.post-48538663220807144962009-01-02T11:14:00.000-08:002009-01-02T11:14:00.000-08:00Nadja, I think that I agree that you might be tryi...Nadja, I think that I agree that you might be trying to hard. Find a way to forgive yourself for everything you think that is not falling into place the way you imagine it should be. We tend to set up unrealistic ideals about life. <BR/><BR/>Life in reality was guaranteed or even meant for us to be continuously happy. We learn far more from our hard times than we do from good times. Consider it a growing pain. You haven't failed, you are just a work in progress.. <BR/><BR/>I think once you aren't beating yourself over "how you should be feeling" vs "how you are feeling" then you may be able to gradually reach the actual point of happiness you are looking for. It will take work, but focus on living in the present. <BR/><BR/>Repeat to yourself that this IS going to be a better year, don't analyze what could go wrong, just tell yourself over and over that it will be better. In the end, all the worrying over what may or may not be, doesn't amount to much except for lost energy.<BR/><BR/>I believe in you! :)Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4974128647569108285.post-88753815669534218502009-01-01T14:15:00.000-08:002009-01-01T14:15:00.000-08:00I agree with Punkrockfairy- if you're happy with y...I agree with Punkrockfairy- if you're happy with your man and your dog be happy with them. You should try what I am doing: at the end of each blog I try to state something that I am grateful for that day. Some days it is harder than others but there is always something to be thankful for. Hope you're new year is a good one.Heatherhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04682164890976796075noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4974128647569108285.post-33574279677280527142009-01-01T09:22:00.000-08:002009-01-01T09:22:00.000-08:00Hey Nadja--Happy 2009! I'm sick at home right now...Hey Nadja--<BR/><BR/>Happy 2009! I'm sick at home right now, coughing and blowing my nose all over the computer and spreading my germs (yum...)<BR/><BR/>A better year is ahead. You're gonna be okay, chickie...Just keep this in mind when you feel crummy....<BR/><BR/>JenJenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17421022098477662697noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4974128647569108285.post-25114287209436433582009-01-01T09:02:00.000-08:002009-01-01T09:02:00.000-08:00Ms. Punkrockfairy you are probably right but latel...Ms. Punkrockfairy you are probably right but lately I can hardly even stand being in my own skin. I think I can just keep truckin' but I can't feel so much angst all the time. The angst is what is tearing me up...Denver Refashionistahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17681030016057155728noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4974128647569108285.post-47450704840328425542009-01-01T07:49:00.000-08:002009-01-01T07:49:00.000-08:00I'm not the expert on positive thinking by any mea...I'm not the expert on positive thinking by any means, but I read your blog a lot and I can't help wondering if maybe you are just trying too hard. There are probably a lot of factors contributing to your state of mind and I think it would be hard to juggle them all. The effect of how you feel physically, the effects of your meds, stress, the holiday rollercoaster of emotions... it's a lot of balls in the air! Maybe you could just stop trying to be happy, let all the balls hit the floor, and let yourself wallow a little. Just give yourself permission to be bummed out for a while and maybe it won't last as long as you think. I'm sure that your jobs make you feel obligated to set a good example by having a positive attitude all the time, but that's an unreasonable expectation for anyone, much less someone struggling with a chronic illness.<BR/>If the only things that make you happy right now are your man and your dog, be happy with them an don't try to force anything else to please you. It's ok to keep doing things (work, dishes, even socializing) just because you HAVE TO or feel you SHOULD, even though you don't REALLY want to. I think sometimes it's enough to "just show up" even if your not really gonna give every single task 100%.<BR/><BR/>I guess what I'm getting at is that I think it's ok to just keep truckin' along until you actually DO FEEL HAPPY again. I don't think it works when you pressure yourself to feel differently than you do.<BR/><BR/>Sorry for the novel-length comment. :)@whiskey.xray.yoga.zulu https://www.blogger.com/profile/13486715100955603014noreply@blogger.com